The prevalent belief that who we are is set in stone is preposterous, harmful and utterly untrue. The fact is, ‘who we are’ is a complex and multi-layered symphony composed of our core self, our current circumstances, and the conscious decision we make each and every day to either progress and grow or remain the same. – Thought Catalog.
I was watching a Ted talk by Brian R. Little recently about the puzzle of personality. (its definitely worth watching) In it, he spoke about how it’s not easy to define people from face value. He went into how people take on things that are against their presumed personality types. For example, a lot of artists who have to get on stage and engage with crowds are introverts but they have to take on an extroverted nature to perform. This got me thinking about how wonderfully complex we are as individuals. There is more to how people act than simple personality types.
“There is no definition of beauty, but when you can see someone’s spirit coming through, something unexplainable, that’s beautiful to me.”
There is a temptation to always try and define the people around us instead of trying to understand. A poem that struck me the other day ended with “My motto; As I live and learn; Is dig and be dug in return” I love spaces where people dig deep into who you are, I love being asked questions, I love being challenged to dig deeper into myself.
“To define yourself is to limit yourself. Without labels you remain the infinite being” – Deepak Chopra
We are so wonderfully complex and who we are is not so fragile that it can be easily threatened by something outside our normal character traits (yes I’m eating Skittles five minutes after I called them poisonous, back off Susan). Maybe we have to come to terms with the fact that who we are is so boundless that it is beyond definition. We have to allow ourselves to be continuously brought to awe by what we find within ourselves. You’ll find strength that you had no idea you had, you’ll find treasures that will amaze you. Just ignore the labels and dig.. dig deep… Who you are, is bigger than you ever realized.