I’ve been learning to be a little less hard on myself. Its not the easiest thing to do. We live in a culture where there is a lot of pressure to perform which makes it hard to seperate our value from our performance. I’ve been learning that being patient with myself does not mean I am losing my ambition, it doesn’t mean I don’t have goals, it simply means that I am allowing myself room to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously… (stolen)
Patience with self is confidence – Unknown
One singer says “I really need to rid myself of the pressure to be someone else that the world has made”. I think that’s one of the most important lessons I’ve been learning. It’s so easy to continuously carry the weight of expectations that are set by the world around us and then beat ourselves up when we don’t measure up. You’re gonna have to learn to walk your own journey, free from other people’s idea of what that journey should look like. You are not on anyone’s timeline. Your story is yours to write…
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do – Unknown
So.. back to the ‘loving yourself patiently’ hullabaloo.. I believe there are small things we can do to show ourselves the patience and care that we often feed to others whilst starving ourselves.
Celebrate yourself : Learn to give yourself a good ole high five or the two finger point in the mirror. This means acknowledging when you do well and also just appreciating yourself for no reason at all.
Don’t compare, just be : It’s hard to be at peace with ourselves when we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. We’re all unique.
Think positively about yourself : In the immortal words of King Julian, “Oh, hello! Didn’t see you there.. How are you liking my new crown? Quite fetching, yes?”…. Know who you are and be confident in that. Be your own biggest fan.
The list goes on. If only we could be a little less hard on ourselves and realize that we are getting there, one bite size chunk at a time.